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Sharon Vickery - Xfactor Dating CoachAt Xfactor we’re proud to have on board, Sharon Vickery, one of the UK’s top Online Dating Coaches. Sharon has a wealth of experience of online dating, both through her personal experience and through helping her clients find their ideal partner.
 
Online dating is a skill and once you learn it’s secrets you’ll be amazed at how easy it can be.
 
So, if you’re new to online dating and not sure where to start, or perhaps you’ve tried it before but with little success, Sharon has the answers.
 
Find out more about her complete home study guide on how to master online dating and find the right man for you by clicking on the link below:
 
How To Have Fun And Find The One With Online Dating

Below you will find some useful tips to get you started or why not join one of our Online Dating Workshops where you’ll get all the help and advice you need to get started with finding your perfect partner online straight away!
 
Is online dating safe?
 
If you use your common sense online dating is no more or less safe than meeting someone in a bar or through any other kind of dating. In fact, if you email and make telephone contact before you meet in a public place it can be one of the safest ways to meet a partner. Remember, many of our members have also attended our events and so it’s likely you’ll have something in common from the start.
 
Should I put up a photo?
 
YES! Members with photos are 15-20 times more likely to get attention than those who don’t. However, it’s vital that you have the RIGHT photo if you’re looking to attract the right partner so here are our 3 Essential Photo Do’s & Don’ts:
 
Do:
  • Include a great casual clear head shot which has been taken within the last 6 months
  • Smile in all your photo’s
  • Put at least 3 recent (taken within the last 6-12 months) photo’s online that show you in different situations and always include one full body shot
Don’t:
  • Wear sunglasses, hats or appear too far away in the main photo. You want a photo that shows you at your best.
  • Post pictures of you at parties with girls or guys all around
  • Include your entire photo album together with your pet cat or dog unless you appear in most of the shots too
Please note: Photos will not appear on the site until they are approved by our Customer Care team.
 
What should I write in my profile?
 
Have you ever wondered why your profile isn’t attracting the right attention from the men or women you want to hear from? It could be that it contains some red flags that whilst invisible to you, could be causing the opposite sex to pass you by.

Here are a few key profile tips:
  • Make your profile fun to read. We all love humour and if you can make someone smile you’ll have them itching to contact you.
  • Be positive throughout. Your profile is not a place to describe anything negative about you or your past and always leave out any comments about your ex.
  • Write your profile as if you are ‘talking’ to your ideal partner in a bar. When you read it out loud does it sound like you?
  • Don’t list out adjectives. Adjectives don’t describe how you are unique so aim to show someone who you are by giving real life examples. Use hobbies or activities to capture someone’s attention but remember, if a phrase could be true of almost anyone, leave it out!
  • Keep it between 400-600 characters. We know women can go overboard with their profiles and men can just write one or two lines so give enough information to be inspiring but not so much that they want to hit delete.
For further help on how to write a great online profile just click on the link below to order your copy of 'How To Write A Great Online Dating Profile in 7 Easy Steps And Attract The Ideal Man For You' CD today.
 
How To Write A Great Online Profile In 7 Easy Steps

Email Do’s & Don’ts
 
Take time to write your emails and you’ll massively increase your chances of a response.

Read these tips before you write your next email:
 
Do keep it short and simple. One or 2 paragraphs will make the best first impression.
 
Do mention something from their profile. Mention something that caught your eye and was unique about them. It show’s that you read their profile and have a real interest in who they are as a person.
 
Do write as if you are talking to them. Just keep it light and fun and write as if you are talking with them in the room.
 
Do give the other person something to write back to. It can be hard to find something to hook on to in a short email so end by asking the other person a question or giving them something they can easily respond to.
 
Don’t make a comment about how they look. If you’re writing to them it’s obvious you find them attractive so leave out the ‘nice smile’, ‘you’re so attractive’ or ‘good looking’ comments as these can be a real turn off for many.
 
Don’t give out your personal information too early. Have patience when dating online. Yes, you won’t know if you’re a match until you meet but allow a few emails to pass between you until you give out your phone number..and guys, do ask the woman if it would be OK to call her before you give her your number as she’ll be far more likely to feel comfortable offering it this way.
 
Don’t cut and paste! You may feel that online dating is a numbers game but it’s not so don’t be tempted to cut and paste a generic email out to lots of people in the ‘hope’ that someone will write back. Your job is to find someone you’re interested in and then inspire that person to be interested in you.
 
Don’t make any sexual references. Remember: This is your first email and you want to give the right impression so leave all sexual innuendos out.
 
How Our Online Dating Service Works
 
Upgrading Membership

Upgrading is very important because without it you are unable to communicate with other members fully - you can send winks but you are unable to read or reply to messages. Additionally, once you upgrade to paid membership, you have unlimited access to all our fabulous extras, such as:
    • Unlimited access to all our fantastic games
    • Send messages to all your potential matches
    • Read all your messages from initial matches
    • Exchange cool gifts
    • Instant messenger for online chatting with other friends and favourites
    • Webcam chat rooms
What better way to get to know someone than playing a game online with them!

Once registered, begin searching profiles and sending messages to possible matches

Our members are ALL actively looking for a new partner and letting them know you are interested in them is easy and has no embarrassment whatsoever. After all, what is the worst they can say - No? If you don't ask you will NEVER know!
 
Read messages promptly and reply to them
 
It is important to regularly check your profile for messages sent to you. This is because spontaneity is a big part of meeting people online and very much part of the excitement. Everyone loves to get messages, especially from someone who fancies them. The message you read may be from a person who will bring true love, happiness and fulfilment to your life, so make sure you login regulary to reply as you woudln't want to miss out!
 
Chat rooms
 
Chat rooms are just one fun way for you to communicate with an ideal match on our site, allowing you to make simple introductions and find out interesting facts, as well as have great conversations that could lead to the initial love of your life. We have lots of different chat rooms to choose from and the option for members to use webcams also if you wish. We recommend members log on at around 9pm each night, when the rooms are at their busiest. Abusive and offensive content is filtered to provide a clean, polite and friendly environment to allow new relationships to be forged. 
Meeting Members
 
Once you feel comfortable and become friendly with another member, you may decide it's time to meet. If you do arrange to meet someone, ALWAYS tell a member of your family or close friend where and when you are going to meet. NEVER arrange to meet another member at your home on the first meeting, especially when you are meeting them alone. Make the first rendezvous somewhere public. When you meet someone for the first time and alcohol is available - refrain from drinking too much.
 
If you chose to drink, then drink from a bottle and keep your thumb over the top of the bottle. If you go to the toilet, take your drink with you or get yourself a new bottle when you return to your meeting - err on the side of caution. If you find yourself in a situation that you feel uncomfortable with, never leave the public place. Call a family member or good friend and have them come and meet you. You could let them know prior to you meeting that you may need to call them later. If any harm is down to you or you receive threats of harm always report these events to Crime stoppers on: 0800 555 111 all calls are treated confidentially. Please inform us as well if any other member acts irrationally toward you if you meet them.
 
Always be careful and cautious
 
Whilst we review and approve all our member profiles manually, we are naturally unable to vet our members and have never met them. Therefore, before giving anyone your contact details or arranging to meet another members, make sure you feel comfortable with them - do you trust them and do you know much about them?
 
Our online dating service provides a place for you to come and find people "per se" anonymously - your details such as email and address are never disclosed by us at anytime, unless you give them out. When you decide to give someone your personal contact details, start by using your personal email address and not your phone number straight away, this way you are always able to avoid contact with them if you begin feeling uncomfortable with them at any time.
Be persistent and realistic
 
You are not likely to meet the love of your life on your first date, so don't expect too much and have the confidence to be honest if the person you meet is not right for you. Equally if your date says they do not want to meet again, just accept it and do not pester them under any circumstances! No one should be disappointed or feel guilty - just agree to part on friendly terms, and remember there are plenty more potential people for you to meet through our website.
Make full use of the service
 
The longer your subscription period, the cheaper our service is to use on a daily basis. Think long term and rather than simply purchasing one month at a time, which is the most expensive option, save money and purchase 3 months or even whole year upfront. Don’t forget to keep your profile information current, and update your photo regularly to maximize the chances of your success.
 
Feedback
 
Let us know what you think of our website, whether or not you have had any potential matches within Xfactor Online dating. We are always here to help. We would love to know about your successes and any suggestions you may have to help us continually improve the website and our service.

!! WARNING !!
Beware of people trying to obtain your address or contact details, take things slowly and never pay monies to any people you have never met. Report any person that is trying to use this website for fraud or any other reason other than genuine dating. If you are talking with anyone in another country take extra care as people are not always who they say they are.
 
There are many thousands of people who use this service; many have found lasting love and happiness - we have had numerous marriages! Be part of it; create some happiness for yourself by joining today and contacting local singles in your area. Good luck, we are with you every step of the way.
 


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